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Trying to make people happy makes you miserable

Image from The People-Pleaser’s Guide to Pleasing People. As I have become more self-aware, I have realised that there is a part of me that is trying to make everyone else happy, all time, often at the expense of what I want or how I feel. I call this part of me the...

The most important question facing humanity

“I think the most important question facing humanity is, ‘Is the universe a friendly place?’ This is the first and most basic question all people must answer for themselves.” Albert Einstein Photo by Greg Rakozy on Unsplash When I was at university, I read a book...

How to stay calm and positive in a crisis

One of the teachings that stuck with me from the last retreat I went on was that 90% of our suffering is only in our minds. This is a great time to test that theory. Right now, as you read this, are you safe? Are you in physical pain? Do you have enough food and...

Where to find happiness

Every one of us is going through life trying to answer the same question: what will make me happy? And looking around me, it seems to be a question that a lot of people struggle with. We hope to find satisfaction in work, but it’s making us feel stressed,...

Mindfulness in prison

As I lay in bed the night before, I noticed my mind was agitated and restless. I was nervous.  Would they be aggressive? Would there be a prison guard to protect us? Would they just stare back blankly when I asked them a question? Had they committed violent crimes?...

10 strategies for lasting change in 2019

  For evidence that resolutions are a waste of time, just look at how the gyms,  yoga studios and pools are full to the brim in this month, and by February, everyone seems to have given up and there’s space in your swimming lane again. But if it wasn’t possible...